Consent

What is consent?

Consent is based on choice. Consent is active not passive. Consent is possible only when there is equal power. Giving in because of fear is not consent. Going along with something because of fear is not consent. Going along with something because of wanting to fit in with the group, being deceived or feeling bad is not consent. If you cannot say no comfortably then yes has no meaning. If you are unwilling to accept a no then yes has no meaning. ~ commonly used unknown source

There are gaps between what SafePlace and most sexual assault programs understand to be consent and Washington State’s definition.

“Consent” means that at the time of the act of sexual intercourse or sexual contact there are actual words or conduct indicating freely given agreement to have sexual intercourse or sexual contact.~ Consent as defined by the Revised Code of Washington 9A.44010

There are additional definitions of consent under the Revised Code of Washington to include age and vulnerability factors. For example, if someone is under 16 years of age, they cannot legally consent to sex. Also included are victims who are under the influence, unconscious, and/or have certain disabilities which could impair ability to give consent.